Men's coach and breathwork facilitator · Ubud, Bali
Six years of men's work in Bali. Breathwork, somatic tracing and structured physical confrontation, for men who are done trying to think their way out of it.
The body holds wisdom the mind doesn't.
That isn't a metaphor. Your chest tightens before you know why. Your voice rises before you decide to raise it. The body gets there first, every time, and no amount of reading about it changes what happens in your chest at 8pm on a Tuesday. So we start there instead.
Who this is for
Different doors, same room. Nothing here is written down to either one of you.
Something broke, or is breaking. The relationship, the business, the version of yourself you could hold together. You've got no language for what's happening in your body and you're not sure you want any.
You don't need to arrive with vocabulary. You need somewhere to put it.
Coaching. Therapy. Retreats. Workshops. Attachment styles. Inner child work. Somatic work. Parts work. All of it. You understand your patterns better than most people in the room.
And you still snap at her. Insight isn't the missing piece. Contact is.
The method
Breathe. Feel. Stay.
Online it becomes Breathe. Feel. Move. Same mechanism, no gloves. The order never changes, because skipping the first step is why the work didn't hold last time.
Regulate first. Nothing useful happens in a nervous system that is still bracing. Somatic breathwork drops you underneath the story you've told about yourself, into the state where the body will actually speak.
Somatic tracing, parts work, inner child work. We find exactly where it lives. Fire in the belly, tightness across the chest, the throat closing. Then we stay there long enough for it to say what it came to say.
Then pressure, and you stay in it. In person that means gloves on and someone in front of you, so you can watch what you do under it in real time and come back when you go. Online the body still moves. Either way you stop leaving the moment it gets hot.
Work with me
One runs online from anywhere. One happens in a room in Bali with your hands wrapped. Both run the same process.
Breathe. Feel. Move.
Private coaching over video, from anywhere. The full mechanism adapted for the screen: breathwork, somatic tracing, parts and inner child work, week by week, with the pattern named as it happens rather than after.
Breathe. Feel. Stay.
The in person work. Breathwork and somatic work with structured physical confrontation added, held in a room with other men. This is the piece almost nobody else in this space is doing.
Rites of Passage · Bali and Portugal
Men used to be brought through by pain, by challenge, by something with real risk in it. The fear was part of it. We don't have that anymore, and nobody teaches us how to be men, so we work it out alone and mostly we work it out badly. Six days, a small group, and a process built to give you the thing that got taken out.
Ask about the next journeyMy story
I had a boat in Mexico. Sailed around, worked superyachts, two months on and two months off. Hundreds of skydives, BASE jumping, long solo passages offshore. I loved every bit of the adventure and I was very good at leaving.
What I couldn't do was stay. The moment I put roots down anywhere I felt my freedom being taken. It took me years to see that the boat wasn't only freedom. It was escape. From responsibility, from the world, from committing to anything all the way.
All of it was scary. All of it was easier than walking into a room full of men knowing I'd have to face myself.
I spent years in victim mentality. Blaming partners, the boss, my parents. Then came the part that was hard to swallow: the common denominator in every single one of those situations was me. That realisation cost me something and it gave me my power back.
I still get activated. I still feel all of it, and sometimes I still snap, usually when I'm tired or running on empty. What changed is that I can name it out loud while it's happening instead of three days later. That's the whole thing I teach.
Training and lineage
Yours when you finish the quiz
The ebook is my own account of the pattern: reactive, then ashamed, then people pleasing, then resentful, traced back to a boy who scanned every room to work out what people wanted. If any of that sounds familiar, start here.
Take the Pressure TestTwo minutes. You get your pattern, and the ebook lands in your inbox straight after.
Questions
No, and it helps if you don't. Most men who walk in have never thrown a punch. The boxing isn't the point, the pressure is. Gloves on gives your nervous system something real to respond to, so you can watch what you do under it in real time. Nobody gets hurt and nobody has anything to prove.
Then we have found the thing. Freezing is information, not failure. Most of the useful work in that room happens in the moment a man notices he has gone somewhere else and comes back.
Reclamation is the online 1:1 work. Breathwork, somatic tracing, parts and inner child work over video, from anywhere. The Contact Method is in person, in Bali and Portugal, with physical confrontation added. Same mechanism, different room.
No. Some men arrive at a breaking point with no language for any of it. Others are three years into their own practice and want to go further. Both are welcome and neither gets talked down to.
No. This is coaching and facilitation, trauma informed, working bottom up through the body. It sits alongside therapy well and it doesn't replace clinical care. If you're in crisis, get clinical support first and we can work together after.
Ubud, Bali for the Contact Room, men's circles and Contact 1:1. Rites of Passage runs in Bali in May and Portugal in September. Reclamation runs online, wherever you are.
Pricing is set per container and I'll give you the real number on the call, not before. Worth naming though: most men who tell me they can't afford this will spend three or four hundred dollars in a night without blinking. I was one of them.
Send me a message and tell me what's going on. I read them myself and I'll tell you honestly whether this is the right room for you.