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Ubud, Bali · info@mikkailhandby.com

You already knowwhat's wrong.Knowing hasn't changed it.

When you experience real pressure, your body reacts before your mind has a chance to think. You can read all the books, know all the theory, and still freeze, snap or shut down the second that old wound gets touched.

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I work with men who look like they have it together.

You've ticked the boxes and made the money. From the outside it all looks good, and behind closed doors you feel trapped in the life you built. I guide you back into your body, so you can feel what you've been avoiding and move what's in the way. So the life you built becomes one you get to live, with the people you love.

Why it keeps happening

You cannot out-think a pattern.

When you get triggered, the grown man you know disappears. You're reacting like a much younger version of you.

The little boy.

This is what I'm here for, to guide you into the uncomfortable, into the unknown.

The method

Breathe. Feel. Stay.

The three pillars of a man who can stay.

  1. 01

    Breathe

    Your breath works directly on your nervous system. Use it to catch the pattern as it starts and bring yourself back, so the grown man is the one in charge of your words and actions again.

  2. 02

    Feel

    As a boy it wasn't safe to feel it, so your body stored it, waiting until it was. When you finally let yourself feel it, it moves, and your body learns it's safe to be human. You come out lighter, more whole, more yourself. And once you open up to feeling, you feel all of it. More sadness, and more joy too. Life gets bigger.

  3. 03

    Stay

    You feel the fire, you breathe through it, and you stay. Every time you hold yourself there, you build trust with your body, your partner, your kids and everyone around you. The little boy steps back, and people feel the man in the room before you've said a word.

Work with me

The Contact Method.

You can work with me online, from anywhere in the world, or in person in Bali.

In person · Bali

Contact Room

Breathe. Feel. Stay.

This is where we test how you show up under pressure, in real time. Group workshop, gloves on, your nervous system as the subject.

  • No fighting experience needed. Most men who walk in have never thrown a punch. What matters is what happens in your body, not how well you throw one.
  • Gloves on. Structured physical confrontation, with your nervous system as the subject.
  • Held in a conscious container. A group of men willing to meet each other's edges together, with love.
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Online · 1:1

Contact Online

Breathe. Feel. Stay.

Private one to one work over video, wherever you are. We go into the body together and work with what is actually there, rather than talking about what happened.

  • Weekly or fortnightly calls. Live, on video. We drop in to where you are currently and work from there.
  • Recorded, every time. So you can go back to what happened rather than trying to remember it.
  • Support between sessions. The pattern fires in real life, never in a session. That is when you need me.
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In person · Bali

Contact Therapy

Breathe. Feel. Stay.

Same room, same work, nobody else in it. Four sessions over four weeks, one to one.

  • Four sessions, four weeks. Same mechanism as the Contact Room, worked with you alone.
  • Gloves on. Structured physical confrontation, with your nervous system as the subject.
  • Support between sessions. The pattern fires in real life, never in a session. That is when you need me.
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A man held above the heads of a group of men
A wrapped fist held out toward the camera in the Contact Room

Rites of Passage · Bali and Europe

Most men are never initiated.

Men used to be brought into manhood by the men around them. The fathers, the uncles, the brothers, the whole community. It meant facing challenge, and the fear that comes with it, head on. This is where courage is born. We lost that in the West. Rites of Passage is seven days with a group of men who have the courage to go through this experience together. Iron sharpens iron. Men sharpen men.

Co-facilitated with Steve Shiva, Temple of Radiance.

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My story

Eighteen years working for billionaires.

Two months on, two months off, working that close to the wealthiest men on paper. I got to see how they behave behind the scenes.

I watched men who could buy anything struggle to hold a relationship together, and struggle to connect with their wives and their children. The patterns were still running underneath the success.

I had my own way out. Drugs, alcohol, women, jumping out of planes. Anything to avoid sitting still and feeling it. When it stopped working, I blamed everyone around me. My partner, my boss, my parents. Eventually I saw that the only person in every one of those stories was me.

I still get activated, and sometimes I still snap, usually when I'm tired or running on empty. What changed is that I can name it out loud while it's happening, instead of three days later. That's the whole thing I teach.

This is why I do this work.

In their words

Working with Mikkail has been life transforming. His ability to hold both space for emotions and unleash the monster within, is second to none. Within a couple of sessions only in the Contact Room, I felt a radical shift in the way I hold myself, my relationship, and my overall sense of empowerment. It was like rewriting the story of the boy within me from fear to manhood and empowerment. Every man deserves that!

Dr. EhabCoach and leader

I wasn't entirely sure what to expect from a Contact Room session, but working with Mikkail was far more transformative than I could have imagined. He holds a space that is deeply grounded, intuitive, and respectful. I was able to confront layers of anger, fear, and inner resistance. It was cathartic, centering, and oddly calming. I left feeling clearer, stronger, and more whole.

Kale WoodsEntrepreneur

Working with Mikkail has helped me connect more deeply the dots between emotions and behavioral patterns. Together, we explored some patterns rooted in my upbringing and early experiences — small childhood imprints that still shaped my reactions today. This process has brought a clearer sense of ease and alignment in my daily life, especially in how I relate to my family and to myself. Mikkail's emotional intelligence, calm presence, and genuine kindness make it easy to open up and give myself 100% in the work. I truly recommend working with him — it's a meaningful journey into understanding the link between our actions and the early patterns we inherited.

Victor BailletBusiness owner, father

Working with Mikkail in the Contact Room was one of the most transformative experiences I've had. From the very beginning, the space he created felt clear, safe, and deeply intentional, which allowed me to fully lean into edges I've avoided for most of my life. I had never truly fought before, but the way Mikkail set the container made it not only possible, but liberating. After the session, he didn't just let me walk away, he stayed with me, helped me integrate, and moved with me through what had opened. He's a master at what he does, and I'm deeply grateful to continue walking this path with him.

JoshuaCoach and mentor
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Yours when you finish the quiz

Reclamation

The ebook is my own account of the pattern: reactive, then ashamed, then people pleasing, then resentful, traced back to a boy who scanned every room to work out what people wanted. If any of that sounds familiar, start here.

  • The Reclamation ebook. The full pattern, written plainly, with what actually shifted it.
  • An honest read on where you are. Tell me what is going on and I will tell you if this is your room.
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Two minutes. You get your pattern, and the ebook lands in your inbox straight after.

Questions

Before you ask.

Do I need to know how to fight?

You don't need to. Most men who walk in have never thrown a punch. Putting on gloves and stepping into the ring is a way into a high pressure experience, that's all. What matters is what happens in your body and how you respond, not how well you can throw a punch. There is real risk, and that's the point. It's held in a safe way, a conscious container of men willing to meet each other's edges together, with love.

What if I freeze?

Then we have found the thing. Every man freezes somewhere. That's your body doing what it learnt to do to keep you safe. Most of the useful work in that room happens in the moment a man notices he has gone somewhere else and comes back.

What's the difference between Contact Room, Contact Online and Contact Therapy?

All three sit inside The Contact Method. Contact Room is the group workshop in Bali, gloves on, in a room with other men. Contact Therapy is the same work in Bali, one to one, four sessions over four weeks. Contact Online is one to one over video, wherever you are, breathwork, somatic tracking and parts work, without the physical confrontation piece. Same mechanism, different room.

Do I need experience with this kind of work?

No. Some men come to me feeling lost, with no words for what's going on. Others have been doing their own work for years and want to go deeper. Wherever you're at, you're welcome here.

Is this therapy?

No. This is coaching and facilitation, trauma informed, working bottom up through the body. It sits alongside therapy well and it doesn't replace clinical care. If you're in crisis, get clinical support first and we can work together after.

Where does the work happen?

Bali for the Contact Room, group or one to one, and men's circles. Rites of Passage runs in Bali in May and Europe in September. The European location moves each year, Portugal this year and Poland next. Contact Online runs wherever you are.

How much does it cost?

Pricing is set per container and I'll give you the real number on the call, not before. Worth naming though: most men who tell me they can't afford this will spend three or four hundred dollars in a night without blinking. I was one of them.

Nothing changes from reading about it.

Send me a message and tell me what's going on. I read them myself and I'll tell you honestly whether this is the right room for you.

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